The Center Of Consciousness

What am I here for? Why am I so unique? Why am I not able to open up to the people I like? What is love?

Some of the questions a teenager asks themselves, if not more then at least once every meal. But why do these questions  fade as the years pass whereas the answers are not found yet. Was it up to the hormones to just raise the questions? What or Who was it responsible for answering them?

The answers lie within us. We seek so many answers, in such a small span of time that by the time we try to understand the right path the hormonal surge disappears and so does the drive to seek the answers. Along with the surge disappears the singularly focused conscious of the teenager as they step into the dawn of adulthood, laden with questions from before and responsibilities of now. Within a couple of passing years, some of these ‘resonating bodies’ find complimentary ‘resonating bodies’ to mate with, to share their zeal with and to finally ‘try’ to beat peace with. However, questions that were then not answered leave a tiny fragment of damage within the individual’s conscious, which through trials of time glorifies to become a gaping wound, one that only grows in absence of the so desperately sought answers from before.

At this stage, neither does one be at peace, nor does one have the singularly focused conscious to achieve any of those mentioned above. What is left is a mold of clay, beautiful on the outside, empty on the inside, without  a sliver of hope or ambition to ask the right questions, leave alone finding the right answers.

It is disheartening to see what a single mistake at a yielding time in one’s sphere of life can lead to. It is equally astonishing to see what certain individuals are achieving in their lives, just by having had gone through a carefully structured teenage and a planned adolescence. It is not expected out of everyone to start up a Google or a Facebook but what is expected is to be able to realize that even they can start up their Facebook by being able to stick to one goal at a time, no matter how hard or demeaning or challenging it may be. The right perspective goes a long way as a right deed.

 

 

 

 

Trying to make the World a better place.

Kunal Roy.

Labels

downloadThis is an issue I am sensitive to, though I write in context of women THE reader must know that labels in general is a sensitive issue I stand against and in front of.
Before reading, leave alone thinking on what I write do think THOROUGHLY on the questions I ask henceforth. Mind you, they are not difficult just exploratory –

Are you normal always and to everybody ?
Do you accept that you can not be normal always and to everybody ?

If the answer to the second question is a ‘yes’ then only should you proceed forward

Do you accept a person, situation or an object that is NOT normal according to YOU ?
Do YOU label people ?
Why do you label people ?
When do you NOT label people ?
What happens when people label you ?
Do you find being labelled a part of gathering attention ?
CAN YOU STOP LABELLING ?

Once you’ve thought upon these read my answers, not for inspiration or ideas or brainstorming. Just read it to know what other people think. Obviously, you may as well label me something. But then again .. I’m not interested ! Cheers.

Never
ALWAYS

Yes
Scarcely
To be closer to them
Used to get offended mildly
Used to
Almost stopped

Now ! Intellectual portion of it is long ended. If you may so allow me to portray something that is going on very SUBTLY.
People blame people. People label people. Something that has been going on since quite some time and doesn’t see an end any time soon, what psychology terms as ‘latent aggression’.

A person carries a bottle of booze to a friend’s place. He is labelled as a drunkard if he carries a bottle of beer. He carries a bottle of wine and some chocolates he’s just a guy in love.

Delhi has recently seen a rise in the amount of Hookah (Tobacco Fumigatory) lounges in the heart of the capital. Now, a cigarette smoker is not allowed to smoke in public places but a hookah smoker can smoke in a closed room full of people who do not choose to smoke voluntarily but have to sit over there just because of a lack of respect of personal choice. But then again ! why cant a smoker smoke in public violating the privacy of the common folk. Just because a cigarette user is just some ‘smoker’ and a hookah user is a privileged ‘elite’ ? So much for labels.

Is it okay if you eye a girl, a woman or an elderly in a public place yet you protect your own women so dearly as to start a brawl in a bar on so much as a mention of her beauty or body ? Why do you protect those labelled ‘Your Own’ and yet defame everybody else so dutifully ? Do you have to ‘label’ people to protect them ? Can’t you just respect everybody if not protect them ?

‘Your’ women can wear shorts and a tee shirt to be modern. Those not ‘related’ to you are bitches and whores otherwise ? What gives you the right to label ‘Other’ women so cruelly and so shamefully ? If ‘your’ God made your women special they would have a mark to display

I conclude with just a line.
Is it just a woman or a baby maker or a pimp or a body to use or an objectified femininity ?

I would love to call her a woman and NOTHING MORE if I can at the very least respect her through that.

-Trying To Make The World A Better Place
-Kunal Roy
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Nitty Gritty.

What once was bleak
Has turned out to be a shimmer of hope, a faint glimmer of light

There isnt much to hope on but just enough to not let go.
The falling outs hardly lead to sorrow
The quarrels hardly lead to pain.

We grin upon the clock as it ticks forward in merry
Trying to be merrier than thee
Merry is the couple who lives a lifetime in a second
The second that they earne after a lifetime of wait.

Blessed is the same clock that slows down its tick
Feelin’ merry seeing the swans kiss.

Are We Truly Democratic ?

One fine morning youimages get up and find your country to be a ‘SOVEREIGN SECULAR DEMOCRATIC’ country viz India. As the dust in the morning sunlight begins to settle down on your window sill you realise that you speak English as one of your official languages despite the fact that you have twenty two languages on your currency note that you do not know about. Rhetoric ? Ironic ? Plainly Miserable ?

  •  THE GOVERNMENT HAS ADOPTED A FOREIGN LANGUAGE AS AN OFFICIAL LANGUAGE BUT NOT TWO REGIONAL LANGUAGES OF OPPOSITE STATES FOR THE OFFICE BEARERS.
  • THERE ARE ‘ESTEEMED‘ ENGLISH MEDIUM SCHOOLS THAT HAVE STUDENTS IN PRESENCE BUT THE EDUCATION IS ABSENT.
  • WE CONSIDER OURSELVES TO BE NATIVE ENGLISH SPEAKERS AND YET WE ADOPT BRITISH AND AMERICAN ACCENTS IN MULTINATIONAL CORPORATIONS FOR SETTLING CUSTOMER DISPUTES OF CUSTOMERS THAT ARE NOT EVEN NATIVE !
  • OUR CITIZENS YEARN FOR JOBS OVERSEAS BUT WE DO NOT ALLOW FOREIGN DIRECT INVESTMENT TO PROMOTE JOBS WITHIN THE COUNTRY.
  • WE PURCHASE OIL FROM COUNTRIES OVERSEAS BUT WE CAN NOT POSSIBLY MAKE RELIANCE INDIA LIMITED REDUCE THE PRICES OF UNPROCESSED OIL BY A DIME.
  • WE DEIFY WOMEN BUT WE DO NOT ATTEMPT TO PREVENT OR BE AWARE AGAINST RAPES. RATHER, WE IMPOSE THE FAULT UPON THE VICTIM, FURTHER VICTIMISING THE SAME.
  • WE HAVE THE METTLE TO INTERACT ON A GLOBAL PLATFORM WITH STUDENTS FROM ANY AND EVERY CORNER OF THE WORLD BUT WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT A STUDENT EXCHANGE PROGRAMME IS OR WE PLAY TO BE LESS KNOWLEDGEABLE FOR SOME UNKNOWN REASON

 

Now did you just read what is happening around you or do you already know what goes around but choose to stay inanimate. Do you find the 200 years of slavery a clever trick out of the British hat or just tomfoolery on the end of the common Indian ? Did we extend our drapes of Atithi devo bhava’ ? Have you ever felt that we do not wish to compete or is it merely a foreign withdrawal ? Do you wanna be a ‘soft slave’ or a ‘competitor’ ? Do you choose to stay in those shackles or do you wish to make a difference ?
Can you tell yourself on your deathbed ‘I HAVE MADE IT LARGE’ 

‘Striving Towards A Better Earth’
-Kabir

 

‘The Way’ or ‘The What’

A very common question YOU ask yourself, not others, which requires YOU to be sound about your methods and NOT decisive about the outcomes : ‘How have I reached here ? Have I done it the right way ? Have I made a difference?’

A multitude of such questions and self introspective pieces of thought come to our mind when we have ACHIEVED something. The key to this question lies not in the basket of the Present but in the womb of the Past. The Ghost Of Christmas Past brings out to us our method using which we have attained our goal. What is important here is to not ask ourselves these questions or rather THIS question when we have achieved but while we try to achieve. Rather, I would stick to an arrogant ‘I’ not a humble ‘We’ for it is ‘The Chat Point’ not Napoleon’s Attic. What I achieve is equally important to me as How I achieve. I do not wish to batter an eye lid over the fact whether it troubles or pains me today but the sole motive to the fact is that I should be contented about it in the near future. It should not serve as a shard of guilt If not as a memoir of pride.

It strikes everybody once if not more : How to decide if I am doing the right thing ? Will change my life for better or for worse ?
Very simple ways to it would be :-

 

  • THINK LESS WORK MORE 

    Drawing reference from my present day ‘society’ and experience, we Asians tend to think more and do less. I would here like to stick to know and keep myself ‘For those who do’ It is personally very tough for me to think over something for a day if the task is worth an hour’s effort. Following a very popular quote of The U.S. Marine : ‘Go right go left it doesn’t matter. Just make a decision’. DO. It’s your life. Don’t stop for too long, you’ll rust. To rest is to rust is not a saying, it’s a school of thought. It’s your life. Both the good and bad outcomes are progeny of your own decisions. Don’t complain about the outcomes, complain about the fact that you made a wrong decision and NEVER commit that same mistake again. Remember, ITS TOO SHORT TO REGRET

  • LISTEN LESS DO MORE 

    NOT drawing influence from my ‘society’ but from my experience and adding a bender to it ‘Pussies listen. Men work’. If you are determined and have the capability to work hard enough to achieve it you will achieve it even if you go astray couple of amillion times. Sure some genius will have done it before you but he will just be the genius who did it not the ‘MAN’ who tried ot. If you want a pat on the back from a few greybeards go with the word of mouth and of the wise and follow a TYPICAL path to a maybe non-typical destination. Generate the capacity to think and have the courage to stand by your word and thought. That is what makes you a ‘MAN’, not tail-wagging behind your woman like a good butler. Hear everything but listen and abide by none. Follow your heart’s calling and you will sooner or later reach the same goal you had or have planned

  • DON’T BE AFRAID TO FAIL 

    You’re a genius if you succeed but a waste of time just the same if you fail. It is analogous to the two sides of a coin, any of the two may land. Here wind n fate do not describe your future. The amounts of ambition and determination you pour in to the mold of a dream define your steadfastness of purpose and zeal. STand by your thought and decision and if you fall never hesitate to try again.
    ROME WASN’T BUILT IN A DAY because it wasn’t a day’s job. Do things your way and if it takes more time that is the price of freedom alas but one too less to pay.

 

Nothing I say matters any more than your conviction. Have you got it in you to fail ? Are capable enough to ‘Pet the orthodox and do it your way’. Are you willing to pay the price of doing a thing your way when it would be done and over with if you did it the ‘classical’ way ? What matters is your desire to do it no matter what. YOU have to do it and you will ‘get the job done’.  Everything else is a hindrance to thought and hence to conviction.

Scrap all that you have read till now and zero down you thought on one question : Would it have been done if I did it the conventional way ? Am i made up for conventional ? 

You will get the answer to this question always not when are trying but when you have done it. So take a flashback into all that you have read and If you and I share the same wavelength you will summarize it to one statement ‘NEVER STOP TRYING’ 

Being provided enough food for thought I and as there is also nothing more to say I am left behind with just a statement and a question that I began writing with :-

 

   I AM GONNA DO IT’
‘AM I DOING IT THE RIGHT WAY’ 

 

 

 

 

 

‘Striving towards a better Earth’
– Kabir

 

 

 

 

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How do you separate black from white ?

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                                         Do you decide separate from white or do you let people decide for you ?

Once again drawing influence from my Indian background, I would like to put forward a question to the masses and to the mob .. Who and what decides what is right and what is wrong ? From what I can manage to deduce out of my ‘LOOK WHAT IS THE NEIGHBOR DOING CULTURE’ I can manage to say that where I hail from I do not believe that the mob and the masses have a similar view on what is right and what is wrong. Here, I would like to crisply separate the mob from the masses. The masses are literate, the masses are intellectual and can THINK. The mob is nothing but a flock of sheep led by a selected few. They are easy to incite and instigate and need to be carefully tended to. It is this mob that I am more worried about and would to bring to the limelight

Who decides black from white ? What is your concern when you are judging the ‘not suitable’ from suitable ? What is your first thought in mind ? Let me bring forward certain common prevalent questions one may come across in my society, rather the society I live in not MY society :-
What will my parents think about my decision ?
What will my parents think about ME ?
Will I be answerable to a third individual if I take this decision ?
What does my decision REFLECT about my character ?
Will I be SEEN as inferior if I take this decision ? 

We let our self be seen as an IMAGE we want to portray and not what WE want to ACTUALIZE ! It is a lack of self esteem along with an over-burdened emphasis of the PEOPLE or the SOCIETY. We do not stand for our own self but as a reflection of the SOCIETY. It is a drawback more and a stabilizing agent of one individual less. One can not come forward as the ‘POPEYE THE SAILORMAN’ of the society and put forward contrasting views without being the black sheep of the society, one which very few choose to accept.
 I would attribute this ‘spinelessness’ to a lack of family support, prime inclination of theirs being to the increased pressure of society and a heavy influence of ‘JOINT FAMILIES’ on individual expression. 

ONE LIVES STRANGLED BUT TO EVERYBODY’S MERRY – DOCILE. One need to worry about choosing YOUR rights from YOUR wrongs .. you shall have a multitude of individuals decide it for you. Either be an independent black sheep or a submissive cow. It is entire up to you and your genetic makeup, along with your environmental predisposition. Come on over and share your opinion, enlighten one, enlighten all. You may be right you may be wrong. Both are BOUND to benefit you in the long run.
 
Would you let yourself be a part of the mob or of the masses?

Striving towards a better Earth
-Kabir

Chivalry Or Pity ? Is it a DIFFERENCE or a SILVER LINING ?


                                                                                             CHIVALRY⌉⌊PITY

Are these two sides of a coin or are these 2 ends of The Grand Canyon ? What is the difference between the two and how do you educate one on the the same ?
A cab driver yelling out ‘Rehne Do Behenji Haath Dukh Jayega’ ! Is that chivalry or is it pity ?
Why does Anoushka Shankar feel the need to make a public comment on National television that ‘Indian chivalry sort of objectifies women. I don’t get my respect that I need’ ?
Where do we lack in defining the narrow boundary between the two ? Or was there every a boundary ? Is the former a Shakespearean exaggeration of the latter ? Does chivalry actually exist or is it a mask to cover the pity that is rampant in a patriarchal society ? Do we still believe in opening the door of a car for our mistresses and mothers or has that become a sign of weakness on the part of the feminine sex ? Where and how do we define chivalry in its crisp sense of the term ? Is it under the weight of an Oxford dictionary or alive and kicking in the mind of every young and old citizen of the world ? Are we ready to hand her over a beer bottle first and ask her to pop the lid on her own or are we gonna let her live on the ‘Pitiful Chivalry’ of the MAN !
What is a ‘Man’ if I may ask so ? Is he nothing more an object for the mantastic ‘Old Spice’ wearing glycerin propylene and other molecular awesomeness ? Or is he still alive in the Nawabs of India lying in their graves ? Or is he robust and roaring inside every citizen of the Earth ?
Why is a country our ‘Motherland’ ? Is it out of love ? Is it ? Or is it out of pity for the other sex so ‘popularly’ termed as the ‘weaker sex’ in media, in society and somewhere deep within out hearts ? Isn’t it so ?
Too many questions-One statement : Is my woman my companion or my slave or object of pleasure ?
To me very frankly ‘She is a companion running ahead of me on the hamster wheel of life’. I am born out of her, she wasn’t born out of me. Enjoy with women, respect women, think for women and for once pray that you are for once born as a woman

Striving towards a better Earth
-Kabir

Stay-At-Home-Dad ! Have you got it in you ?

                                                                               To Whomsoever It May Concern

Hailing from a country like India, know for its ‘Chivalrous Patriarchy’ I often think or rather ponder over the concept of a STAY-AT-HOME-DAD. With the decreasing trend of a Stay-At-Home-Son, I find it rather challenging for a common man to accept the concept of staying at home nurturing their kid maybe, painting their house maybe, mopping the floor maybe, doing the dishes maybe or rather JOBLESS maybe. This country has time and again associated staying at home men with being jobless and stay at home women as being docile or rather ‘spineless objects of utility’ rather than recognizing the importance of both walks of life in committed or ‘Happily Married’ life or as a single parent.

What I mean to ask the masses and the mob is what they think on this sensitive topic and why do they think so ? Is staying at home a spot on one’s bravado or his libido ? Can’t one equate a sage in the Himalayas with a dad staying at home for his three months old little one ? How is a fitness athlete hitting the gym for 5-6 hours a day and sleeping the rest out different than a Stay-At-Home-Dad ? Is staying at home challenging to one’s male ego ? Or is it not ? Would you stay at home for your child ? Would you as a wife allow yourself to work outside for a more handsome paycheck and let you ‘MAN’ take care of your little duke or princess ? Should he be the one to take him to karate ? Should he be giving more time to her ballet lessons ? Would you love your dad to drop you to school in the morning and take you back n cook you some pasta in the noon ? Do u prefer having your mother home or your father with you ?

I being raised with both the parents do not know the situations or the melancholy of staying with one parent or the idea of having both parents working since my own mother was into coaching classes at home since before I was born ! Would you prefer my life ? Would you prefer being alone at home in the afternoons or chilling out with your friends without any restrictions or justifications ?

Share your thoughts, your views, and your experiences with me and fellow visitors.

Striving towards a better Earth
-Kabir